Why Are Women Attracted to Bad Boys

"His mother should have thrown him out and kept the stork"

Mae West

He stands there; head at an angle, hip thrust out, looking like an angel with the devil in his eyes. Women are drawn to him like a magnet. And he knows it. The attitude is there and you know you are in for a ride. Are you ready?

I hope so. He is trouble with a capital "T" and too many are drawn his way. Who is he? The Bad Boy. The one your mama warns you about. You tell yourself to stay away but your hormones tell you otherwise. You want the thrill and excitement he brings. But what about the pain and heartbreak that comes along with it?

Yes ladies, we have all experienced firsthand the stimulation a man like that can give off. Who wants a boring, safe and comfortable good guy when we can have HIM instead?

Who is he, this man of mystery?

1. The Creep aka James Dean Was a Wuss

This is the most common Bad Boy to recognize. The way he walks talks and moves telegraphs his every thought: and none of it good. He may have the look of someone you want to snack on, but you'll end up with indigestion once the meal is over. It may be fine every once in a while as long as you're prepared to endure the heartburn, but a steady diet can cause ulcers.

2. The User aka Mr. Sweet Talker

Ah this one is smooth. Always ready with a compliment, be careful ladies, he can get you doing things you'd never have considered before. While he may be able to convince you that no one will ever know, there is a reason WHY most people (and some states) think the actions are wrong. Unless you're willing to take the fall for this lothario, detour around this one. The adulation isn't worth it.

3. The Abuser aka The Property King

The worst of the bunch, this one starts out perfect. He wants to know everything about you and rarely talks about himself. He'll find out the little details and put them away in his file cabinet of a mind waiting until you're totally wrapped up in him. Then the fun begins. You're so sure he's "The One" that when the insults starts you know it must be true. Someone who loves you that much can't be wrong. Before you know it you're no longer talking to your friends, and your family time is down to nothing. Every moment is taken up with making him happy. When you don't (which is impossible, btw) things get really ugly. He now OWNS you and can do whatever he wants. If you're lucky you can get out of this relationship battered and broken, but alive. Avoid at all costs!

4. The Egomaniac aka Mr. Studly

Like The User, this one uses his charm as a weapon of mass destruction. After all, he IS the best looking male within a 3,000 mile radius and you are darn lucky he's allowing you to breathe the same air as him. He's got the bod he's got the moves butter melts when it comes within 20 feet of him for heavens sake! He's the male equivalent of the trophy wife. Who wouldn't want him on your arm at the company party or class reunion? Unfortunately lesser beings (like all females) are only put on this earth to continually boost his already over inflated ego. The only relationship he'll ever be interested in is the one between him and his mirror. Don't get in the way!

5. The Clueless One aka Sir You Know You Like It

To this guy, the word NO doesn't exist at least not in his universe. He's the one who always has a group of women hanging around him; wanting to be the one he picks. This bad boy gives off the vibes that he is looking for Ms. Right. Watch out for his male posse though. If there are more than 2 he's always with, he isn't looking for companionship: he already has it. What he's looking for is another notch on his belt and bragging rights. To him the word rape doesn't exist except in the minds of women who didn't want to admit they really did want him.

So, what is it with these "Bad Boy" types, and why are women uncontrollably drawn to them? After all, we know better, don't we? Deep down inside every warning buzzer is screaming at us to listen, but we happily ignore it. Is the suffering and destruction which is left in the wake of these "Bad Boys" worth the hour or so (if we're lucky) of pleasure?

And let's not forget the eternal conundrum from which most women suffer. While the "Bad Boy" is attractive, charming, and maybe even a wee bit witty, what women truly desire is a man who will sweep them off their feet, shower them with love, and show them what a great man can truly accomplish. But, when such a man does waltz into your respective lives, do you even notice him? No, of course not. Because that devilishly good looking "Bad Boy" standing a few feet away is giving you all the right signals and your hormones are going into overdrive.

So, how then do we set aside our hormones and pursue the men who will actually give us pleasure in body, mind, and soul? With hard work and patience. Don't give up looking for the good ones. They are out there. They may not be the one you zip to at first glance, but like a good book, open up the cover and peek at what's inside. You may be surprised at what you find.

Take it from one who knows ;)